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The Southern Democrat, December 26, 1968

Whatever is best
editorial by Mrs. Rice M. Howard

One of our loveliest Christmas greetings cards this year contained an added personal message that meant much: “Whatever is best, I wish for you.” Since this makes an equally good New Year’s wish, the Democrat staff extends it to our readers, contributors, and advertisers: “Whatever is best, we wish for you the coming year” – good health, family and good friends to love and enjoy, peace of mind, the wisdom to put first things first and to disregard the superficial, awareness of little things that make the difference in living, and rich living. If you have these, perhaps the added wish for prosperity is superfluous! Happy New Year!

Health Notes
from Blount County Health Department

Certainly it’s a challenge to bring up a child so he’ll be healthy and happy. And mothers sometimes get overinvolved in complex theories and methods, or become confused by the conflicting advice they read or hear. But just remember that nature meant you to have children and endowed you with a mother instinct that will develop along with your baby. He’s a human being and wants warmth and acceptance, attention and love; these are the “right things” for him.

You can’t overestimate the importance of yourself to your baby, not just for physical care, but for the feelings you transfer to him or create in him. So the logical starting point for good mothering is to consider yourself and your own feelings.

Do you want to be a “perfect” mother? Aim to be a human one instead. A common mistake young parents make is to try very hard to be perfect. But parents have their own unruly feelings, just as children do; and perfection is a large order, too large.

Parents and children alike do better when they’re free to feel and act naturally; this is actually a first step toward turning these “good” feelings you would like to have into a reality instead of a pretense.

You’ll enjoy your child if you don’t expect too much of him, either. First of all, let him be a human and let him be himself. Don’t expect him to be like some other children, even like you. Accept him as an individual. This takes some adjusting, but mostly it’s a matter of common sense.

Love your baby for what he is and he’ll be better able to love you; that’s the beginning of his ability to accept other people. Make him happy and confident and the chances are he’ll get along in the world, whether he turns out to be short or tall, handsome or homely, intellectual or athletic. You can help him make a success at living, just by accepting him as he is and letting him develop his own potentialities.